Love languages. The concept
that people show and perceive love in different ways. This topic has come up several times recently
among different people I know.
These languages are [in no particular order] words of
affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical
touch. I think we all have reasons and explanations
for why our preferred love language is the most meaningful. But my reasons don’t mean someone else’s is
wrong. Their own reasons are valid to
them.
Anyway, I was thinking about how all of these love languages
are meaningful when they’re done out of selflessness. And how the most important love languages can
be meaningless when expressed without sincerity.
For example, gift-giving is fairly low or even non-existent
on my scale of love languages. For the
most part, I’m not too concerned about acquiring possessions. Things can be bought and given without a
genuine, caring thought. But I would
accept a thoughtful gift any day over insincerity in any of the other love
languages.
No, I’m not saying this has happened and I’m definitely not
saying anyone should buy me gifts, haha!!
I’m just reflecting on how I perceive love and that it has less to do
with the method and much more to do with the motive. And wondering how well I demonstrate the sincerity
of my heart in my own expressions of love.
Do the people I love perceive genuine love and care in the ways I interact with them, regardless
what their preferred love languages are?
I’m not saying that someone’s love language isn’t important
as long as my motive is right. Not at
all. I think it’s very important for me
to understand and use the right love languages as much as possible. But it is equally as important to be
thoughtful and authentic in my expressions.
I hope that I am already but I would like to be more intentional about
it.
Just some thoughts.
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