27 February 2014

big j little j

Big J, little j, what begins with “J”?

I recently came across some old correspondence with my parents.  When my son was “little j”, I tried to include some news about what he was up to.  In this one email, “little j” was almost 4 years old.  Here are two of the funnies from that email.
  • One day “little j” and I were at the grocery store.  He suddenly he went up to some woman and said, “Hi, Grandma!!”  The woman was startled at first and then just cracked up.
  • At another time, some friends were visiting and asked my son what he learned in Sunday School.  All he said was, “To sit down.”  Now that was probably a good lesson for him at the time!!
Anyway, I thought they were funny and I’m glad I thought they were worth sharing with my parents.  Kids grow up fast.  Would I remember any of these “little” things if I hadn’t written some of them down?  I don’t know but hopefully I don’t stop paying attention just because he’s becoming a “bigger j”.

24 February 2014

Going clipless

The moment arrived.  I needed to start learning how to ride clipless.  (This actually means being clipped IN to my mountain bike but that’s an explanation for another time.)
My first attempt was two weeks ago.  I was warned to expect a lot of falling and tipping over.  They were right.  There were times I just toppled over to the side because I unclipped one side and then pulled myself down while trying to unclip on the other side.  I learned that I need to unclip while rolling, not from a stationary position.
I felt particularly successful when I managed to unclip and jump off my bike before it headed into a narrow creek.  Note that I said successful not skilful because it surely wasn’t skill that unclipped me at that point.  (Although, to be honest, I should have been able to cross the bridge instead of unclipping anyway.)
Saturday was Day Two in clips.  My personal goal was not to fall off the side of the mountain.  I am happy to report that I achieved that goal.  Not that I would have gone far if I did slip a bit...
As expected, I fell some more while trying to get out of my clips at various points.  It felt more stressful this time around.  It wasn’t so much the pain of falling because it really doesn’t hurt that much to topple over.  But there’s a burst of fear or something when you’re going down and you can’t get your foot loose to brace yourself and it feels like you have no control.  Add a dose of frustration because you were trying to avoid what you did wrong the last time… only to do it again.  And of course the bruised ego, aka embarrassment.
I have one particularly memorable fall.  I heard a rider approaching behind me and I didn’t want to be in his way.  So I hurriedly found an opportunity to pull over so he could pass.  I kept telling myself that no matter what I needed to get out of his way, even if it meant tipping over in the opposite direction.  Well, you can guess what happened.  I unclipped one foot, struggled with the other, and started tipping… right into the rider as he was passing me.  So basically I knocked him over too.  [I clipped him!  HA!!]
He was a good sport about it and helped me up even though I kinda felt like staying on the ground.  I even had some involuntary tears.  Not from pain but just the entire experience.  In retrospect, I think I was being way too hard on myself.  I’m sure it looked hilarious.  The other rider even laughed – not at me, but because it was funny and he understood.
Since falling is going to keep happening while I continue to practice, my goal next time is to laugh as I brush myself off.  I might as well be laughing while I’m learning!

20 February 2014

Back in 3 or 6...

Anyone else itching for a vacation?  I’ll be back in three – no, make it six – weeks.
Too bad it doesn’t quite work like that...  :-)

17 February 2014

Getting phishy...

Yesterday I was introduced me to a new treat.  Phish Food.
I had never heard of it although apparently it has been around since 1997.  Only 17 years.  And I’ve been living in this country the entire time.
This is an AMAZING Ben & Jerry’s creation!  Now, I like most types of ice cream fairly well.  I don’t discriminate too much.  I especially enjoy chocolate/peanut-butter or chocolate/marshmallow (if it looks like there’s enough marshmallow mix-in to even taste) but I’m open to black cherry and plenty of other flavors.
But imagine my delight at my first bite of chocolate ice cream perfectly enhanced by swirls of marshmallow, caramel, and tiny fudge pieces in the shape of fish!
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!
I was very impressed!  It wasn’t too rich either.  Perfection.  And I didn’t have to share (although I would have)!
Ahhhh, the bliss of this new-to-me ice cream.  Good times, good times.  :-) 

Valentine Mom

I’m behind on several posts that I’ve wanted to write about.  Better get to it!

This past Friday was Valentine’s Day.  It was my weekend with my son and when I picked him up he said he wanted to take me to dinner for Valentine’s.  I wasn’t allowed to pay.  Knowing that he doesn’t get allowance and he doesn’t have a job (yet), I knew his funds were limited so I told him he didn’t have to do that.  It made me feel good that he wanted to pay.  But he insisted that it was completely on him.
I felt very proud of him.  There are a lot of 16-year old boys who wouldn’t even consider such a thing.
I’m a pretty lucky mom.

12 February 2014

On The Run

OTR – On The Run.

I have a friend (ok, I guess I say that loosely since we haven’t really stayed close over the years) whose teenage son is OTR.  Been missing since Friday evening.  He’s only a few months older than my son.

They couldn’t file a missing person’s report because apparently a teen runaway falls under different laws in their state.  Maybe nationwide; I have no idea what the laws are in my own state pertaining to this.

My friend is worried and heartbroken.  She posted on facebook that even a text from an unknown number saying, “Mom, I’m ok” would make her feel better.  She does know that he took off with two other kids and that one has been in touch with a school friend – though not revealing any details about their whereabouts or activities.

I have so many thoughts.  How does a kid get to this point?  Are they chasing an adventure for the risky thrill of it or trying to escape something because they can’t/don’t want to handle it differently?  Could MY kid get to this point?  None of us think these things will happen to us.  I doubt my friend expected it either – I don’t really know.

Personalizing this and imagining how I would feel if my son ran away makes me feel devastated for my friend.  I might not be able to do anything for her personally, but I *can* pray for her.  And I can pray for my son and try to see his world through his eyes.

If you have a child (grown-up ones too), and if you pray, please pray for them today.  And I know my friend would appreciate some extra prayers too for her son and their whole family.

05 February 2014

Blueberries

Today I’m thinking of blueberries.  Maybe because I heard this silly joke recently:
Q:  What is the difference between an elephant and a blueberry?
A:  They’re both blue, except for the elephant.
Ba-dum-bum-CHING!